ASIAN MEN'S INTERPERSONAL PROCESS GROUP

This group is for men of Asian descent (East, Southeast, South Asia, Pacific Islands) who are curious about their inner lives and interested in exploring them in relationship with others. You don't need to be in crisis or have a specific problem to work on. What helps is some openness to being honest, to being uncomfortable, and to letting other people in.

You might be someone who functions well on the outside but feels disconnected from yourself or others. You might be carrying patterns around achievement, emotional distance, or relationships that feel stuck or unfulfilling. This group is probably not the right fit if you're in acute crisis or need more intensive support. In that case, individual therapy first would be a better starting point, and I'm happy to help with that referral.

Each session is 90 minutes weekly. We sit together as a group, and there's no set agenda or topic for the week. Instead, we start where we are; whatever someone brings into the room becomes the starting point.

What unfolds from there is the work we do together.  Someone might share something that's been weighing on them. Another person might relate or notice a reaction and name it. Tensions, connections, and patterns that show up between members in the room become the content we pay attention to, because how we relate here tends to mirror how we relate outside of session.

This isn't a problem-solving group. We won't be workshopping your situation or offering advice. The goal isn't to fix anything. It's to notice what happens when men actually let themselves be seen, and to practice something most of us never had much room for: real connection with other people. Sessions are facilitated by the therapist but member-driven. I hold the space and offer observations and suggest interventions, but the group finds its own direction.

Friendships and peer support are real and valuable, but they serve a different purpose. With friends, there's usually an unspoken agreement to keep things comfortable, to fix the problem, or to move on. In a peer support group, the focus is often on shared experience and mutual encouragement. Unlike a peer support group, this is facilitated by a licensed therapist, which means the process is structured around growth and change, boundaried and intentional, and designed to create the conditions to be known and accepted by peers. 

This group goes somewhere different. The relationships that form here become the actual material we work with. When tension comes up between members, we stay with it rather than smooth it over. When someone notices a pattern (either in himself or in how others respond to him), we look at it together. It's also a space with no agenda outside the room. Nobody here needs anything from you. That allows new experiences and insights to emerge.

I created this group because I kept seeing the same thing in my practice and in my own life: Asian men who were extremely competent, thoughtful, even self-aware, but who had very little practice being with their feelings and letting themselves be authentically known by others.  That pattern can make us feel safe over time but also lonely and cut off from ourselves in ways that are hard to put words to. 

Most of us didn't grow up with many models for what it looks like when men are actually close. Not just friendly or loyal, but actually real with each other. Maybe your inner life was something you handled privately, or didn't handle at all. Maybe you learned to need less, show less, or "suck it up."

I wanted to build something for that. Not a space to be fixed, but a place to finally have the kind of conversations most of us never had a chance to have.

Sessions are $75 each. Sliding scale is available . Please reach out and we can talk about it.

I ask that members commit for at least four months. Group work takes time to open up, and the relationships that make it meaningful don't happen overnight. If at some point you want or need to leave, I ask that we bring that to the group rather than slipping out quietly. Endings and goodbyes are things most of us never learned to do well — processing them together is part of the work.

Recruitment is ongoing and the group will continue to add new members, as there is space. 

Currently, I am an out-of-network provider (except for NYU Wellfleet). I can provide you with a monthly superbill that you can then submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement. Many insurance plans will cover a portion of therapy services if you have out-of-network coverage.  

NYU students on Wellfleet who are 21 or older may have in-network coverage — feel free to ask about this when we connect.

Group therapy offers something different than individual therapy, and can be a helpful complement. Group therapy offers the chance to see how you actually show up in relationship, in real time, with other people in the room. Many members find that insights from individual therapy come alive differently in a group, and that the two support each other in ways they didn't expect.

Yes. Confidentiality is something we take seriously and discuss explicitly as a group. Members work together to establish norms around privacy and trust — not just as a rule handed down, but as an agreement we build together. Holding each other's stories with care is part of what makes the group feel safe enough to be real and honest in.

Send me an email to set up a free consultation, or hit the Schedule Consultation button above. It's a chance for you to ask questions and get a feel for whether this is the right fit. If we decide to move forward, we'll schedule an individual intake before you join the group.